Most of us know the difference between being alone and feeling lonely. Often times we feel the loneliest in a roomful of people. Feelings of loneliness are usually caused by feeling disconnected from yourself and others due to a variety of events such as depression, feeling as if you don’t belong or fit in, or if you aren’t getting your needs met.
Being able to overcome loneliness means being able to determine what is causing those feelings. You may feel lonely because you are having issues with your primary relationship(s). Refrain from blaming others for your emotions though. You cannot expect them to help you overcome your own emotions. Doing something to improve or move on from the relationship(s) may help you. But keep your reflection inward based in order to accomplish the best results.
If you feel lonely because you feel like no one understands you, or you just don’t feel like you fit in where you are, start to look around for people that will understand. No matter what you might be going through, there is someone in the world that is probably experiencing something similar enough to you that will understand. Or, find a Life Coach or counselor to talk to. Sometimes just being able to talk about how you don’t feel understood, or feel like you fit in will relieve the lonely feelings and getting feedback is always helpful.
If you feel lonely because there are outstanding personal or relationship issues, face them. Work with a professional if you have to, but don’t just let yourself get more lonely and become vulnerable to depression or in the worst cases, suicidal thoughts and actions because you aren’t sure where to start resolving issues. There is help available, reach out and get it.
While you are working to overcome loneliness, be gentle with yourself. Putting yourself down or feeding into negative perceptions about yourself will only make things worse. Pursue enjoyable activities and push to stay active so you can keep your mind away from those feelings you would prefer not to have. That activity will help lift some of that heavy cloud sadness feeling that comes along with feelings of loneliness. You still need to deal with whatever is causing you to feel lonely, but taking time to take care of yourself will make it an easier process. If the feelings persist for more than a couple of weeks, get screened for depression just in case you might need medical help to get back to better feelings.