Do you have the desire to figure out how to stop worrying? Perhaps you are an awfulizer, worry wart or struggle with high anxiety that keeps your brain working on overtime. Or, maybe you are pretty peaceful overall, but are challenged with occasional bouts of insecurity that leave you second guessing yourself and filled with self doubt when it comes to making a definite decision about some things.
Whatever your reason is to want to find out how to stop worrying, the first thing to know is Yes You Can! It first helps to figure out where your worry is coming from.
Why People Worry
- They are afraid something bad is going to happen or they are going to fail in some way.
- They are afraid.
- It gets them a false sense of control over a situation they really have no control over.
- They feel that is what you are supposed to do. Think of a parent worrying about a child, while it is perfectly understandable, it never serves the parent or child.
- High anxiety caused from too much stress or because their adrenalin production got stuck on the “On” position.
Does any of this sound like you? Getting to the root of why you worry is an important first step in being able to create the best ways to jump off the worry train.
How to Stop Worrying
1. Stay in the present space and moment. Pay close attention to what is going on right now, and let go of the need to try to forecast the future. Sometimes this is all you need to do to realize that everything is OKAY right now. When the future comes, you can deal with it then. As you’ve dealt with everything else that has come up in your life thus far, at least to the point you can read this article, I’d say your chances are pretty high you can deal with anything else that comes along, but don’t try to live in “what if….” – live in “Right now”.
2. If you are worried about making a decision, do as much research as you can, get feedback – but ultimately you must make a choice that feels the best for YOU. If you must, put a deadline on the decision you have to make and if you still can’t come up with a choice, flip a coin. You only fail if you don’t try and failure always includes the gift of knowledge, so take a chance and fail once in awhile.
3. When you notice worry thoughts ask yourself, “Is there something I can do about this?” If there is, there is no sense worrying about it – just do whatever it is that is a possible option. If you can’t do anything about it, there is no sense in worrying either, but that can be easier said than done.
4. Take your worry to the absolute extreme of the worst that can happen – to the absolute very end to the point of being completely ridiculous, and then keep going. Your mind will get to the point that it finally gives up thinking of what bad things could happen, and you can move on to think about something more positive.
5. Reach out to others and if it’s something you don’t want to share with your friends or family, join an anonymous forum, or send me a message. Sometimes just communicating what you are worried about will help you stop worrying so much.
6. Radically pursue self help/self improvement or a faith based activity. These pursuits can help you have faith in yourself that you will be okay – No Matter What.
7. Distract yourself from your worry thoughts by pursuing a creative or other type of activity that will engage your mind so you aren’t ruminating on your scared thinking.
8. Do a daily brain dump. This is where you sit down with a pen and paper, you need to write manually due to the hand/mind connection. Write until you can’t write anymore about whatever is going on in your head. Then, organize your thoughts into a “To Do” list. You won’t have to worry about remembering anything that way.
9. Collect a list of songs, chants or mantras you can fall back on. My personal favorite it “Three Little Birds” (See video below). I’ve added a couple of more videos that you might also find helpful.
Now that you know how to stop worrying, you can start to practice. You might find one or more techniques work better for you than others, and you might stumble on something else altogether. Either way, never give up. Worry is unhealthy for your complete system – meaning mind, body and spirit. Overcoming your worry thoughts will create contentment and better overall health, and maybe even happiness and joy.