Even the strongest, most enduring relationships need a boost now and then we all need to feel loved, appreciated, desired and cared for and taking some time to re-connect with our partners is truly time well spent. When you start exploring and getting some ideas of how to start this, then it can be highly enjoyable too.
Love is a verb…also known as a doing word…being in love and loving a person is being in a state of action so yes, being with one person takes a little work now and again and some time to remind us why we are with the person we have chosen and taking time to both enjoy and appreciate one another.
Spend some time together in one another’s company and take some time to look intently into your partners eyes, these are the windows to the soul and it is an amazingly effective way to create a reconnection between you.
Take a walk together down memory lane, start with the sentence, “do you remember…” and recall one of your fondest, possibly earliest memories together. When your partner talks about this or recalls a linked memory as is often the case, really listen to them. Not just with your ears but totally focus on what they are saying without thinking about what you are going to say next, listen with your whole body. It makes a huge difference.
Cute nicknames, got one, used to have one or never had one….use them, it shows a deep connection and it can be a fun private thing between you and it will create a stronger connection. It does not have to make sense to anyone else, it is a shared secret and that in itself is powerful.
Be more positive, compliment and encourage, it creates warmth and will re-strengthen your bond, when we get in a rut we can sometimes only see the habits and not the beauty that used to envelop us.
Tell your partner they look good, hot, fit, sexy….whatever but let them know that you find them attractive.
Food is intimate; make your partner breakfast in bed as a surprise.
Spend some time together away from everyone else, if only for a couple of hours book time in to have a date night, dress up, make an effort regardless of where you are going and make a few hours just for you.
Do a new activity together – join the gym, go for a walk, try a new sport, anything to get your adrenalin going. Adrenalin is one of the first sensations that we feel when we fall in love, adrenalin can remind us and re-ignite those feelings too!
Have a look for more ideas of how to connect with your partner is my latest free ebook, Unique Ways to Reconnect with Your Partner. No registration required.