The whole world seems better when your self esteem is at a healthy level. Your professional life goes along more smoothly, relationships are easier to navigate, including the one you have with yourself and you even your physical health is improved because with better self esteem, the less stressed and depressed you’ll feel. If you feel as if you could use a boost, try these 7 fast ways to boost your self esteem.
Before we get started, I want to point out that oftentimes our self-esteem gets locked into a low setting because of our past. Perhaps you were in an abusive or non-validating environment, or maybe you struggle with feelings of guilt or shame over things you have done that you regret. There is no way to change the past though and you can have a fresh start today, starting right now if you want it. Stay focused on the present moment, know that your heart is in the right place and you deserve the best life has to offer. If you need additional help putting the past behind you, seek help from a Life Coach or other qualified professional, it will be worth it in the long run. Until then work on this –
7 Fast Ways to Boost Your Self Esteem
1. Set and Reach Goals
The level of self-respect and how much you like yourself is directly affecting by how you can reach goals. If you aren’t used to doing this, or find that you set goals and fail to complete them, start with small goals. For example, if you wished you exercised more, start with one push up or thirty seconds of jumping jacks. That might not seem like it’s worth it, but I guarantee if you haven’t been exercising, then even this small effort will be a 100% improvement, and because it is a simple step to take, your self-esteem will immediately boost.
When you get used to doing one pushup or thirty seconds of jumping jacks, add one more, then two more. You can also apply this to any other goal, that is, small and consistent baby steps.
2. Recommit to your standards and values
When your self-esteem is low you often have soft boundaries and will compromise your own standards and values in order to please other people. That makes it super important to redefine, refresh and stand up for ideals you feel are important and especially if you have been slacking on them. When you are clear on what you believe in and stand by that, your self-esteem will grow significantly.
3. Succeed at Anything
If you set and make a goal, no matter how small, that is success. You can also find other ways to be successful and if you have been on a dry streak with succeeding, again, start small. Volunteer somewhere once a week and succeed in your role as a volunteer, bake a cake and succeed in serving delicious treats to your friends, family or coworkers. Clean your room and succeed in finally getting rid of the clutter. It doesn’t matter what you do, just pursue things you can succeed in and the feeling of self-esteem and knowledge that you are capable of success will bleed over into every other part of your life.
4. Refuse to Compare Yourself to Others
Think about it, if some of the world’s greatest people compared themselves to others we would not have the Theory of Relativity, light bulbs or other world changing inventions because most of the greatest people were up against great odds and others didn’t come into their own until late in life. Besides, we each have our own challenges and just
5. Gather a Support Network
Being recognized for the good that you do and the great person you are is an important part of building your self-esteem. Unfortunately not all of us were able to get the healthiest amount of this from our family and some of us go on to find friends and romantic relationships that also refuse to acknowledge our greatness. Distance yourself from those people and reach out to others who are willing to boost you up instead of bring you down. If you don’t make friends easily, volunteer somewhere or start to visit folks at retirement centers or otherwise position yourself in an environment that will help build you up.
6. Reward Yourself
While it’s important for other people to acknowledge your greatness, it is just as important for you to celebrate yourself. Even if the reward is small such as a nice cup of tea or ice cream, do it every time you take a step towards your goals. This gives you something to look forward to and will allow your self-esteem to grow because you will begin to feel more important to yourself.
7. No more Negative Self-Talk
If you find yourself complaining in your head, refocus your thoughts on what you want to replace what you don’t want and keep those thoughts as your primary focus. If you notice you are putting yourself down in your head, remind yourself that you are better than that. Talk to yourself as if you are your own best friend. To start, tell yourself “I Love You” as you look deeply into your own eyes in the mirror. It might feel silly, but do it every morning and see how you begin to believe it.
If you follow these 7 fast ways to boost your self esteem, you will feel great in no time at all. Repeat them daily for best results. If you need some goals to get you started, contact me, we’ll work some out.